I was in a training last year, and as part of a teaching exercise, I had volunteered to have my issue “worked on” by the trainer. She asked me what my top values were. “Kindness, love, family, justice, and independence.” The trainer nodded knowingly, and, since it was a training, told my fellow students to “notice how these are HUGE people-pleasing values.” My classmates’ heads bobbed up and down in agreement. I was a little shocked–how could kindness and love be bad values?
At the time of the training …read more